By Anna Komaromi
Most people think that chastity is about abstaining from sex and that’s it. But, chastity is much more than that. In fact, married couples can be chaste—all the time! Chastity is a self-mastery of one’s passions so that the individual is in charge rather than their body. According to the Catechism of the Catholic Church, it is the integration of sexuality within yourself and the formation of a balance between your spirituality and sexuality. When you choose to be chaste, you are placing your dignity and that of those around you and the one you love, above your physical desires.
So, what exactly does this mean? It means that you are a chaste person if you control your desires in a virtuous fashion, and if you respect your own sexuality and that of others. To be chaste, one needs to abstain from having sex outside of marriage; to dress and act modestly; and to control what kind of music they listen to, things they watch, and friends they hang out with.
I personally find chastity to be freeing and amazing! Chastity helps me to be the person that God has created me to be which gives me true happiness. Without prayer and God’s grace, it would be impossible for anyone to be chaste. In addition, it is important to look to the saints for guidance and example. Never be discouraged, because living a pure life can be hard, but it is so rewarding!
Jason and Crystalina Evert have an excellent website where you can find more ideas, advice, and resources, which I highly recommend: http://chastity.com/.