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The Breakup

May 6, 2019 By juliegramlich

broken-hearts-of-fingers4 Tips to Move on with your Life after a Breakup

By: That One Girl

 I recently got my heartbroken, and if you’ve ever experienced heartbreak it’s not a pleasant feeling. In fact, it’s probably one of the worst feelings in the entire world— at least for me. It’s been a little over a week since my boyfriend of 2.5 years decided to end things. Not going to lie, it’s been a struggle because I loved him and considered him the love of my life. I genuinely thought that he was going to be the one with whom I’d spend the rest of my life. However, God has something else in store for me. What that is, I am not entirely certain, but I’m definitely open to whatever it may be despite how foreign and scary it may be.

Everyone processes heartbreak differently but at nearly 27 years old, I’ve learned a thing or two about breakups and moving forward with my life. Here are 4 tips to help you move on with your life after breakup:

  • Embrace every emotion.  Personally, the feelings you experience after a breakup are what I fear the most. They are extremely uncomfortable. I’ve been told it’s normal to be sad, angry, upset, and that I have to be sure to feel all of those in order to move on. However, you cannot let these emotions consume you to the point you can’t function because no one should ever have that much control of your emotions —you do.
  • Pray, Pray and Pray some more!  This year I started morning reflections so prayer has already been a part of my daily routine. However, the key here is to be specific in your prayers. Pray for strength, pray for healing, whatever you need God to do to help guide you so you can move on, ask for that! Also, sometimes it’s good to just be alone with your thoughts and write them out to the Lord. If anyone knows pain, it’s going to be Jesus. After all, He died for our sins so that we may have eternal life. Try thinking about that the next time you want to cry.
  • Surround yourself with positive people.  Though breakups seem more negative than positive, I feel like one of the more positive things that come from the situation is the realization of how many people care about you and are there for you. I have so many wonderful friends and family members that have been there to listen to me and pray for me. Those are the people you want to be with, people that will support you and remind you that you aren’t alone.
  • Discover a new passion. Up until the break, more than likely, all of your time and energy will have been dedicated to planning things together and doing things with your significant other, but now it’s time to be your own independent person.  How exciting is that?! I know it’s a bit terrifying, but now you can try that cooking or kickboxing class you always wanted to do! Try redirecting your energy on something that makes you happy. For me, I’m going to try yoga. I tried it last week at a local studio with my roommate and it was awesome. I just bought a yoga mat too!

I know often times in life so many things are easier said than done. But I think that’s where a positive mindset and dedication to prayer come into play. Remember you’re not alone, and God has a special plan for you. Use this low-time of heartbreak to learn and grow spiritually.

 

 

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