Author: Anonymous Teen
Being in high school there is a big pressure of losing your virginity. The pressure might be from your boyfriend or just some of your girlfriends talking about it and how great it is. But what they don’t talk about is how it can ruin relationships. When you decide to have sex for your first time you have this vision in your head of how special you want it to be. Think in your head how special it would be to wait to have sex until you’re married and the first time be with your husband, the one you know you will be with for the rest of your life. Then think about the night of your wedding, you had been with several people and wish you would have waited. You can’t take your virginity back.
If you are dating someone and you are being pressured, you may hear thinks like: ” You don’t care about me if you won’t have sex with me…I’m going to break up with you if you don’t do this… you’re such a prude…c’mon we don’t have to tell anyone, it can be between us”. I heard all of these things throughout high school and you know what? It was hard when someone would break up with me because I didn’t have sex with them. It would’ve been easy in the moment to make them happy but in the end, I am so glad that I didn’t.
The best thing you can do is just not think of the peer pressure and just stick to the goal you want. You might hear some of your friends say “I really wish I hadn’t done that with him, I feel so regretful. And you can imagine how hard it is for them to think about that and how they cant take it back. Or you will see guys going around talking to their friends about what they did with some girl this last weekend. Do you really just want to be “some girl” or do you want to be “that girl” once you get married. You are in charge of your virginity, no one else is.