As women I think we can all say at one time we have struggled with loving ourselves. I still struggle with this, but not nearly as much as I used to. During middle school through early high school I had a really hard time with this concept. Insecurity seemed to be the norm with my peers and everyone liked to pick out everyone else’s flaws. I had a really terrible time seeing myself the way God sees me. I thought I was not worthy of being loved, no boys could possibly like me. The first problem comes from the fact that we all have a hole in our souls that was meant for God and I thought that the way to fill that hole was through a boy. I had a desire to be liked by boys to the point that I would lower my standards and do whatever was necessary to keep a boys attention. I would think highly of myself when I was able to keep the attention of a boy and when they stopped speaking to me my confidence would plummet. We are taught from a young age between princess movies to romance novels that one day a man will swoop into our lives and every problem will be solved (I love princess movies, don’t get me wrong). I went to a Steubenville Conference my junior year of high school and I remember a speaker saying that “even after you are married your husbands will not fully satisfy you”. We have a desire for the divine that can only be satisfied with God, that concept completely blew my mind. My idea of my self-worth stemmed from the ability to get boys to like me not from the truth that I was created for a purpose by the Creator of all things, pre-thought and I am unconditionally loved by a man who came to this earth willing to die for me. We are daughters of the one true King and we are made in the image and likeness of God. He thought of every little thing that you love and hate about yourself. He gave me my inability to speak in a quiet voice, my love of all things goofy, my eyes that crinkle up when I laugh and even my ability to stay pale all year round. You are his master piece. He loves you exactly as you are, and when you put yourself down you put down his piece of art. You reject the beauty he so thoughtfully put inside of you. The fact that we are daughters and sons of the creator of Heaven and earth should be enough to make us understand how amazingly cherished we truly are. It won’t happen overnight, but if we make an effort to speak to God about it He will slowly reveal to us how beautiful we really are.
Go look into the mirror and simply pray “Lord help me to see myself the way you see me” and pick out one thing you love about yourself. If you make an effort to do this daily, I promise you will start to see a glimpse of yourself the way that God sees you.
You are so incrediably loved. Never forget it.
You are in my prayers,